Boys and Girls and Girls and Boys and ???

Fifi Dubois © Leland Bobbé
Fifi Dubois © Leland Bobbé

It’s 2015, I am 49 years of age, and I am thoroughly confused.

I walked into my child’s 4th grade classroom just as he was telling the teacher that his 20 year old step brother had told him that what your body looks like on the outside does not matter, it is how you feel on the inside that determines your gender.

Oi Vey! There is so much I took for granted when I was a child! When I looked at a boy, I thought he was a boy. When I looked at a girl, I assumed she was a girl.

I absolutely do not care who is what or what body they live in. I love all types of humans in all types of ways.

However, I can say that I was feeling confused about how many different ways there are to gender identify yourself now so, I Googled it…..(do I get into trouble for using that word in a blog?)

While doing a little research on Gender Identity I learned that Facebook has 58 gender identifiers to choose from! For me, that is a little overwhelming! If I was confused before I can say that 58 options to choose from for gender completely dumbfounded me!

However, I did find some basic gender themes while looking at definitions. I picked a few of the most popular and added them here. I strongly support you in looking up several of these definitions so that you too can get a feel of gender identity fluidity in the world today.

I hope this list helps if anybody was as confused as I. Also, remember that gender orientation is different than sexual orientation.


*Androgyne – a non-binary gender identity associated with androgyny. Androgynes have a gender which is simultaneously feminine and masculine, although not necessary in equal amounts.


*Cisgender/Cissexual – applies to the vast majority of people, describing a person who is not transgender. If a doctor announces, “It’s a girl!” in the delivery room based on the child’s body and that baby grows up to identify as a woman, that person is cisgender.

*Gender Fluid

*Gender Queer

*Hirja – The label of “hijra” pertains to a diverse range of people who consider themselves outside of the cis categorization of male or female, but largely describes those born male who transition to female through a combination of gender affirmation surgery, taking on India’s traditional feminine gender roles

*Pangender – (and/or Omnigender) is a non-binary gender experience which refers to a wide multiplicity of genders that can (or not) tend to the infinite (meaning that this experience can go beyond the current knowledge of genders).

*Third Gender/Third Sex – Third gender and third sex are concepts covering individuals categorized, either by themselves or by society, as neither man nor woman. It also describes a social category present in those societies that recognize three or more genders.

*Trans-male or female

*Trigender – is a gender identity which can be literally translated as ‘three genders’ or ‘triple gender’.Trigender people experience exactly three gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between them. These three gender identities can be male, female and/or any non-binary identities.

*Two Spirit – usually indicates a Native person who feels their body simultaneously manifests both a masculine and a feminine spirit, or a different balance of masculine and feminine characteristics than usually seen in masculine men and feminine women

It is so exciting to me that we are at a point where our children do not take what they see on the outside of a person to mean anything about the soul that lives on the inside of a body.

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